Weight in the Big Girls World

I was listening to a news report the other day on the way home. It stated that some larger people were very upset because anorexia is becoming a common trend. But - there never seems to be any sympathy for anyone who has a obsessive eating disorder. Heavy people are usually labeled lazy and told to put down the fork. Seems like an easy order. In a world where most actors are a size 2 and struggling (not eating) with staying that weight for fear of losing roles. Why would the world want the general public to follow suit?

I have always been a big girl. I don't blame anyone for my weight. Most of it is genetic. Most of it can be tapered with watching the food intake mixed with some movement.

I am just tired of hearing about it all the time. I grew up with a Gramma who was obsessed with the weight thing. She mentions weight everytime she sees you. Also a Grandfather who pointed out that you were bigger since the last time he saw you.

To this day - I have friends that monitor everything I put in my mouth. They want to discuss the fat content and cholesterol level. Whenever HB is feeling fat - everyone needs to follow suit and eat the way he deems acceptable.

It becomes hard to put a stitch of food in your mouth when you are around these people. Because you don't want to hear it. It gets old - really fast.

Its a shame because I know a lot of people that have been bigger all their lives (me). We have come to accept it and actually relish in our beauty. We can look in the mirror and feel comfortable in our skin. Is that so wrong? Is it wrong to feel good about yourself - no matter what your size?!?

The majority of the females in the USA are a size 12-14. I know this to be a fact - because if you are that size - trying to find that size sometimes is a feat. There are plenty of 2 and 4s on the rack. Why - because most of America doesn't fit in that size. Actually I laugh at times. I think that even if I became skin and bones - I still wouldn't fit in that size.

Sadly - I came across this very subject this weekend with someone I hold very dear. Regretfully - she is too young to embrace her beauty and is feeling the same shame I did when I was younger. I have made it a rule for myself - that I would never ever mention the things that so bothered me when I was young to someone that young.

Like I said - bigger people look in the mirror. They know exactly what they are. Pointing it out doesn't make people change. You won't see someone leave the Doctors office and go buy a treadmill. It's only when the person it is effecting wants change.

I understand that most people say things out of concern - health reasons. But - if you don't know my medical history and bloodwork - then you need to butt out.

If it's effecting me because I cannot get out of bed, into the shower or walk 5 steps. That is a medical emergency. Then its your duty to get me some help.

We don't need a play by play everytime we choose to eat. All that does is make us want to eat alone. We eat when no one is around so we can enjoy our meal in peace. This never makes for healthy eating. Why must I eat standing in the kitchen alone when I could have eaten the same thing sitting at the table enjoying your company?

We are also not just a number on a scale. "Gee, that's an awfully high number" "You have such a pretty face if only..."

So when you come to visit my home - I am going to treat you like my father always did to us and company.

I will feed you till you burst. I will have enough drinks to go around. I will always have dessert. And the meal will be fun and enjoyable.

If you mention your diet or cholesterol while your there.

I will personally stick a bread roll in your mouth.